Do We Really Need To Tell Adele She’s “Too Fat”?

I’m on a quest to beat my body’s slowing metabolism that really kicked in when I turned 40 and it’s getting worse as I approach after milestone that won’t be as nifty.

All I have to do is look at food and I gain weight.   I started out 2012 weighing in at 166.8 pounds, which is just 3.2 pounds shy of my all-time high of 170 pounds in 1986, following almost three years of weight gain brought on by Murray State University cafeteria food.

Right now, I’m down to 163.4 pounds and by summer, I want to drop to 150 pounds and stay there.  O.K., really want 149, so I can be under 150 pounds.  I know this is going to take a lot of time on the treadmill and more importantly, watching my caloric intake.

I’m bringing this up for a couple of reasons, I look at Adam Levine, the lead singer of Maroon 5, and his always exposed tattooed body and think “damn, I wish I looked like that and I wish I had some tattoos.”

Case in point!

While this is revealing, he’s not opposed to getting naked for photo shoots, “I spend most of my life naked,” Levine says.  “In fact, I often have to be told by the people around me that it’s inappropriate to be as naked as I am. But I live in California, where it’s always warm, so why not?”  He also posed totally naked with just the assistance of his girlfriend, Victoria’s Secret model Anna Vyalitsyna’s hand for a campaign to encourage men to be tested for prostate and testicular cancer.

This is an example of a man with a perfect body.  I’ve never had a perfect body and most Americans don’t have a perfect body.  When I gained the weight at college back in the early-to-mid-1980s, a friend of my mother’s commented that I had gotten fat while at college.

While that was not the catalyst, although it probably didn’t help, I developed bulimia in 1986 and this went on until early 1995.  As you may or may not know, bulimia is an eating disorder that forces one to consume thousands of calories in a setting and then vomit all of the food up.  Most bulimics use their fingers or foreign objects to cause the projectile.  However, mine was mental.  I never once physically forced myself to get rid of the food.  It was a mental reaction to eating, but the effects were the same.

In the early 1990s, I went in for an evaluation at Charter Hospital of Paducah in Kentucky, to get help to beat bulimia and I was turned away.  Bulimia and anorexia are still predominately considered a woman’s disease.  However, more men are being diagnosed with eating disorders.

During that nine-year period, I went from 170 pounds in the summer of 1986 to 116 pounds in March 1995.  This picture of me and my chow chow, Keshia, was taken in early 1994.

I’m writing this because just like a recovering alcoholic that fights the urge to have a drink every day, as a recovering food addict, I think about food and my weight constantly every day.  Once I was “on the wagon”, I found my ideal weight to be around 150 pounds.  However, over the past 15 years, I’ve seen my weight in the 160s to be more realistic.  That’s why I’m going to work very hard with diet and exercise to drop back to 150.

I grew up with the women in my life being overweight.  I’ve heard them refer to themselves as “fat” and I’ve even been guilty of using that word instead of overweight.

Something that happened recently is prompting me to write this.  Creepy fashion designer Karl Lagerfeld commented that pop singer Adele was “too fat”.  It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to look at Adele and know she’s overweight or “too fat”.  But, is that something you say publicly?  He doesn’t go on the record and say, “the models that show off my clothes are anorexic or bulimic and that’s how I want them to look.”

However, it’s one thing to think something, it’s another to use the brain, regardless of what size it is, to process something before you say it.  Words do have a lasting impression in a person’s psyche.


Karl, that’s what a beautiful overweight woman looks like!


P.S.  I’m leaving you with a sexy EXPLICIT video and if I had a genie in a bottle, this might be me with “Moves Like Jagger”.

38 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by jason on February 12, 2012 at 2:37 pm

    I really enjoyed your blog thank you for sharing Anthony ..


  2. Posted by Kathy on February 12, 2012 at 2:41 pm

    ❤ 😀


  3. Posted by Melissa on February 12, 2012 at 3:09 pm

    I think Adele is beautiful as is and I love that song? Thanks for your thoughts.


  4. Posted by Jessica on February 12, 2012 at 3:26 pm

    You look great now! My Grandma says once a person is overweight, they will always worry about their weight. Looking back at my own life, I think she is right. It helps me to think “it could be worse.”

    You mention that you are a recovering food addict. That makes sense after struggling with bulimia. I used to be anorexic as a teenager, and am now, also a foodie. I do love seeing your food creations via Facebook!

    They say people gain weight when they are happy. Maybe that’s why I am currently expanding. 🙂


    • Jessica,

      Thank you for your kind comments and your Grandma was correct.

      Yes, I love food and I love taking pictures of it. However, most of the creations I make now are tasty, but health-conscious.

      Maybe that’s the reason you and I are both expanding. Stay healthy and happy.



  5. Posted by Jordan on February 12, 2012 at 3:42 pm

    Karl went back and tried to “reword” his statement, saying that he called her “a little too fat” compared to Lana Del Ray… yeah, realllll classy. Adele is gorgeous and her confidence makes her even more beautiful! Another great blog, Anthony 🙂


    • Jordan,

      Very true, real classy!

      He only went back to clarify because of the uproar. That’s just like when athletes, actors, comedians, etc. make homophobic comments, and then they say, “I’m sorry. I was stupid. I didn’t mean it. Some of my best friends are gay.”. Yes, you’re stupid, but I don’t buy it. It’s called “damage control”.

      Thank you very much for reading and commenting.



  6. Thanks for sharing, I think all of us goes thru a phase of the OVERWEIGHT thing. I know I did this past year… mercy did I put the weight on while I was off from my surgery and no working for 9 months. I went on a diet and change my way of eating. I have lost 52 lbs in 7 months and about 35lbs in body fat. I know I got a ways to go but it’s getting there surely but slowly. I would like to get down to a 130-140. Keep up the good work Anthony and just be Happy and if Ray is Happy with the way U are then so be it. U are handsome and goodlook’n and nice the way U are.


  7. Wanda,

    You’re welcome and thank you for always reading my blogs and commenting.

    Congratulations on losing the 52-pound weight loss. Keep it up!

    You’re too sweet. Keep saying that “handsome and good-looking” thing. 🙂 Laughing, joking, kidding!



  8. Posted by Larry on February 12, 2012 at 5:47 pm

    i appreciate you sharing your struggles, After i turned 30 all i do is gain weight and think about food but never had a eating problem yet, i am 5′ 7″ 253lbs which means im short and fat and if someone called me fat i would just deal with it. 🙂 but thats me. but i think being to political correct and not telling somebody if they are too fat or too skinny could be a problem too


  9. Larry,

    Thank you for sharing your story with us, too.

    I’m glad you just deal with it. 🙂



  10. Posted by Becky on February 12, 2012 at 7:17 pm

    Peeps, You are an inspiration. You are just fine the way you are… And Adele is beautiful. i do not think she would be so stunning if she were “skinny”, just sayin’. Keep blogging, love it!


  11. Posted by Sharon on February 12, 2012 at 7:37 pm

    Just watched Adele win her first award for the night. I actually don’t think she really looks overweight at all. So she’s a little curvy; many find that quite attractive. It’s refreshing to see a classy, successful artist who isn’t a size zero. I, too, have struggled with weight issues most of my life. Have finally taken control of it and am loving our new healthy lifestyle. Thank you for sharing your story Anthony, I wish you the best in your quest to reach your desired weight! 🙂


  12. Posted by Tera on February 12, 2012 at 8:24 pm

    I truly enjoyed reading this blog this evening. Thank you for sharing your story. When I first graduated college I ran a fitness center at Carl Sandburg College and had a young man struggle with this as well. So many people forget that men go through this too. I wish you well and think you look smashing in your suits on TV! =D


  13. Posted by Kathy Markham McCoy on February 12, 2012 at 9:17 pm

    Thank you for always being so honest & open, Anthony.

    I was sickly thin through grade school, not much heavier in high school & still not really “overweight” in college. Then I had two deaths in the family (grandparents) within six months…I started “emotional” eating & put on the pounds through the years. I went through a time when I didn’t even want to leave the house. Then one day it hit me…I’m a pretty good person, I wear clean, well-fitting & appropriate clothes…I’m not here to be entertainment to others. If my size offends someone, don’t look at me. I would like to lose weight for my own health & well-being, but it’s not an issue of becoming what someone else wants me to be. Hateful people are uglier to me than I as an overweight woman could ever be to them. Adele needn’t pay any attention to stupidity.

    And Anthony, you are beautiful on the inside, AND pretty darn nice lookin’ on the outside, too. 🙂


    • Kathy,

      You know me — honest to the point of fault sometimes. 🙂

      I like you just the way you are, too. Something tells me that Adele doesn’t listen to the haters.

      And, thank you for the kind words and compliments.



  14. Anthony, I agree…it wasn’t necessary for Karl to make that remark. Having been the “fat” girl in school until the summer before my soph year when I lost 40# and went back to school with very few people recognizing me as the “fat” girl anymore, I can tell you it is hurtful and leaves a lasting impression……..I joke now that I am not overweight – just undertall and that we “curvy” women are actually voluptuous compared to the stick thin models I have had occasion to see……..I am working on losing weight now, but it is to get healthier…, guess I will see you on the treadmill Anthony!


  15. Posted by Toni Finch on February 13, 2012 at 2:50 am

    Anthony, you look absolutely fabulous just as you are. If you are trying to lose more weight for health reasons, than I wish you the best. If you are doing it to please anyone other than yourself, don’t over do it, because you already please all of us. I know first hand how hard weight issues are. I have done the yo-yo too many times to count. I struggled with an eating disorder in my 20’s, and haven’t gotten over it yet. I am happy to say that I have decided that “fat or thin” I am still who I am. Now, I just want to be healthy enough to enjoy my next 50 years! (yes, I’ll be at the gym tomorrow!)


    • Toni,

      I would never lose weight or alter the way I do things for anyone else other than me.

      I’m glad you love yourself regardless of weight or dress size. I wish everyone was like that.



  16. well if there were angels they wud look like her


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  18. Posted by Dorothy DeMay on February 12, 2013 at 9:04 am

    Peeps, this was a good post and one that hits home for me. I struggle with my weight gain constantly. It didn’t help while on chemotherapy that I took steroids to counteract the side affects from it. It helped tremendously, but they kept me awake for hours on end and through the night I would binge eat because I was actually hungry. On top of it all, I come from a very large family that are very large and overweight individuals. I’m not happy with my appearance, but I am happy that I am alive.

    Love your posts and this one especially.



    • Doe,

      I’ve always said it’s easier to make bad choices when eating and it’s easier to put weight on than take it off.

      When I talk about working out or weight, I usually get the responses, “you don’t need to lose weight”, “you look great”, etc.

      However, I walk all the time so I can splurge when I want to. Being a recovering food addict, there are huge implications between weighing 155, 160, or 165! It’s a daily struggle.

      I hope that you begin shedding those additional pounds. As you know, cutting a few calories here and there does make a different. It’s just so hard to say “no”!

      Good luck, my friend.

      Thank you for the kind words about the blog.



  19. Posted by DogmomDiva on February 12, 2013 at 9:32 am

    Anthony, not a lot of folks know this, but as a chubby kid who grew into a chubby young adult, I suffered from anorexia from my late 20’s to early to mid 30’s. I got down to 90 something pounds. I think it was a control thing, it seemed to be the only thing in my life that I could control. And you know when I was that thin I didn’t like myself anymore than I do now at being severely overweight. I managed to keep my weight in the 130-140 range for quite a few years until I got sick in 2002 with Epstein Barr Virus which is chronic, also diagozed with Fibromyalgia a few years ago..Add to that the unability to do a lot of physical activity and I have gained so much weight. sounds cliche, but it weighs on me greatly. I look in the mirror now and I don’t know who that is staring back. so it’s time to try to do something about it. Weight watchers worked for me many years ago so I think that is what I will try. the physical activity is harder but I HAVE to get control of this now. Keep up the good work and I will be so happy to support your fitness goals no matter what they are..hugs, Barb


    • Hi Barb,

      Thank you very much for checking out the blog and for sharing your story.

      I know that not all people suffer from eating disorders, but I know a majority of people have issues with eating healthy and trying not to gain weight.

      And, sadly, health issues, like yours, cause people to gain unwanted weight.

      I hope you find a way to fight back and be healthier.



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