Gretel Is Making Dinner For Her Two Dads

Happy Father’s Day to all of the dads. This “Father’s Day” is bittersweet for me.

Gretel likes to make us cards.  I love the detail of Miss ABBA in an urn and Jackie, the troubled cat that has now been attacked three times with all of her injuries, including yesterday’s!

Although Miss ABBA didn’t know this day from any other day, it was always fun for me because I’d buy myself a CD, a DVD, or some small gift and it’d be from Miss ABBA.  I didn’t do that this year.

Three years ago, after Ray and Gretel came into our lives, I was ABBA’s dad and Gretel’s “like a dad”.  Now, she considers me her other dad, but still calls me “Anthony”.

For Father’s Day in 2010, Gretel made us a smiley face fruit platter.

Last year, Panda was staying with us and we had a little feast on our patio to commemorate the day and you can tell that the four-legged creatures got their fair share of cheese and snacks!

This year is going to be special.  On Friday, Gretel told me she wanted to surprise us by making us dinner, but she needed my help.

I told her that since I have to work Sunday evening, her dad would have to help her make dinner, so it couldn’t a “surprise”, but it’d be a very nice gesture.

She decided on lemon basil chicken pasta (her favorite) and fresh veggies.  On Saturday, we went to the Farmer’s Market in Davenport and we picked up what she needed.

When we were at dinner Friday night at our friends Tim & Sandy’s house, Tim told her he’d give her $5 if she could name all of the veggies in his vegetable-pasta salad and she did. We saw them at the Farmer’s Market yesterday and he paid up.

Here’s the surprising and touching part.  Gretel doesn’t really understand money.  We often joke that being an only child, she doesn’t grasp the concept of how much things cost.  Well, I think Ray and I need to re-think that!

As we walked around the market, she decided that she wanted homemade pasta from one of the vendors.  We had already bought vegetables, popcorn, and some other things.  When she picked up the pasta, she took the $5 out of her pocket and paid for it herself!  Ray and I were floored.

Now, I can’t wait for my dinner break this evening to check out my little girl’s “Father’s Day” feast.

And, on this “Father’s Day”, it’s great to know that the APA has our back.

A paper by right-wing author Mark Regnerus called “New Family Structures Study” questioned how good gay parents are at raising children.

And, here was the loud and clear response from the medical profession, “On the basis of a remarkably consistent body of research on lesbian and gay parents and their children, the American Psychological Association and other health, professional, and scientific organizations have concluded that there is no scientific evidence that parenting effectiveness is related to parental sexual orientation. That is, lesbian and gay parents are as likely as heterosexual parents to provide supportive and healthy environments for their children. This body of research has shown that the adjustment, development, and psychological well-being of children are unrelated to parental sexual orientation and that the children of lesbian and gay parents are as likely as those of heterosexual parents to flourish.”

Of course, when the flawed study was released, the National Organization for Marriage and the Mormon church were two of the first groups to jump with joy and started touting this news that gays are bad parents.

I hope everyone has a great Father’s Day this year and that you take time to remember your dad or dads!



6 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Kathy Markham McCoy on June 17, 2012 at 10:59 am

    Gretel is one terrific young lady, isn’t she? Hope to see some pictures later of the yummy food she makes. .

    You will always be “Daddy” to ABBA, no matter where she is, as long as you carry each other in your hearts.

    Happy Father’s Day!


    • Kathy,

      I know Miss ABBA will be me forever, and yes, Gretel has great potential and I’ll work hard (with Ray) to see her achieve all that she wants.



  2. Posted by Tammy Ridpath on June 17, 2012 at 12:50 pm



  3. Posted by Cori on June 18, 2013 at 4:26 pm

    She knows how lucky she is to have you both, you are very special to all of us!!


  4. Cori,

    Thank you very much for the kind words. Have a great upcoming weekend!



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