Dying Proves Marriage is More Than Just Rings & A Commitment

UPDATE:  I posted this original blog one year ago.  Shane’s video has now been viewed almost four million times!

ORIGINAL BLOG:  July 2, 2012

Some people marry for money, some because of sexual attraction, some for the class status of becoming a trophy wife or husband, but I would hope that most people marry for love.

I decided to get married last fall for three reasons:  because of love, because of sexual attraction, and for political reasons.

It gave me a chance to show Iowa Governor Terry Branstad and Iowa conservative and failed politician Bob Vander Plaats, along with their followers that the Iowa Supreme Court justices that made marriage equality a reality in the state were progressive and not backwards like the 50%-plus of Iowans that voted three of the justices out of office after that landmark decision.

Being married gives a couple, especially same-sex couples, freedom to make decisions for their spouses in emergencies, with hospitalization, and sadly, in death.

If they were married, life would have been much easier for Shane Bitney Crone after the love of his life, Tom Bridegroom, fell to his death while working as a photographer.

Shane made a very touching video about the heartache Tom went through when he came out to family and what happened when Tom died.  It’s been viewed on YouTube more than 2.7 million times.

To the haters out there or to the people who don’t understand or support marriage equality, I hope one day that you see love for what it is, an undying commitment to the person you love — regardless of sexuality, gender, race, or however you want to classify people.


6 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Kathy Hyson on July 2, 2012 at 7:11 pm

    😦 I’m listening Shane…slowly but gradually more and more people are listening…


  2. This made me so very sad. Please people don’t be afraid. stand up for what you believe in and really feel. Life can be taken away in the blink of an eye. Feel free to be happy, and to love who you love.Be who you are be true to yourself. Don’t be a forgotten soul. You will either be remembered for a great achievement that you have made in your life or you will be remembered for disagreeing with an issure that is very important to you. Just remember this YOU WILL BE REMEMBERED. That is all that counts. No one should ever be forgotten.

    Thank you for sharing this anthony. And to shane everyone is listening now. Hold your head up high, stick your chest out, and definitely be proud of who you are and what you are doing to make this place a better place for all to live.


  3. thank you anthony, you are truly an inspiration to all people, gay or straight. If everyone was as strong as you were about your convictions then there wouldn’t be any descrepancies about who has the right to be themselves. Just keep up the good work, I know that you are so very strong and that makes it so much easier for all having to deal with the issues of ignorant people


    • Marci,

      You’re too kind and sweet and I thank you.

      Yes, I’ll always remain strong and stand up for what’s right and for my beliefs. I appreciate the support.

      I’ve always said it takes strong people in minority groups to get the word out, but it takes a majority and compassionate people outside that group (in my case, straight people) to help us win and make progress.

      Again, thank you, my friend.



  4. Posted by Tammy Ridpath on July 4, 2013 at 2:06 am

    This is very disturbing. I don’t know how Tom’s parents can sleep @ night. What a shame.



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