In the December 2013/January 2014 issue of “Instinct”, glamour maven RuPaul says, “Everybody uses their mind to discern who is who, what is what. In that respect, we look at a person’s race, sex, how short they are, whatever, and we decide in our minds who they are and whether we should get to now them and like them. In that respect, everybody on the face of the earth is by definition a racist. Everybody.”
RuPaul adds, “We all do it. Nobody talks about it. The thing is, you just can’t get caught. And for everybody to point their finger and pooh-pooh her [Paula Deen], it’s f*cked up. And that’s the kind of stuff I’ve hated my whole life — that we’re such hypocrites. She’s a lovely person, and I think it was unfortunate that she got caught.”
Re-posted from “Random Friday Thoughts — December 20, 2013
And, in case you were away from television, radio, and magazines last year, here is the background story and my thoughts from
PAULA, STOP TALKING AND BE WITH YOUR FAMILY!
Food Network star Paula Deen is all over the television these days. She’s the talk of radio, her face is all over the magazines, and blogger are feasting on a buffet talking about her. There are many things being said about her — some say give her a break because she hasn’t said anything you probably haven’t said and some say she’s a racist.
Paula’s whirlwind downfall started recently after she was called to testify last month in a 2012 $1.2 million sexual and racial workplace discrimination lawsuit brought against her and her brother Earl “Bubba” Hiers by former restaurant manager Lisa Jackson.
Jackson, who is white, claims that Deen said this when asked about a theme for a wedding, “Well what I would really like is a bunch of little n—–s to wear long-sleeve white shirts, black shorts and black bow ties, you know in the Shirley Temple days, they used to tap dance around. Jackson says that Deen laughed and said, “Now that would be a true southern wedding, wouldn’t it? But we can’t do that because the media would be on me about that.”
In that deposition last month, Deen admitted to using the “n-word” in the past. However, she maintains that she hasn’t used it in years and when she did, it was because a black man held a gun to her head at her former place of employment. Earlier this week on “Today”, Matt Lauer asked Deen , “Are you a racist?” and the 66-year-old grandmother responded, “No, I am not.” and “The day I used that word it was a world ago. It was 30 years ago.”
This week, Deen was fired from the Food Network and she lost sponsorships with Wal-Mart, Smithfield Foods, Home Depot, and Target. QVC is still deciding on Deen’s fate.
Domestic Diva Martha Stewart says, “”I feel sorry for Paula Deen. She’s a public figure and I know you have to be extremely careful being a public figure.” And, civil rights activist Reverend Al Sharpton adds, “A lot of us have in the past said things we have regretted saying years ago” and “You cannot deal with what is fair or not fair until we see an outcome of the present circumstances she is accused of, not something that happened 20 years ago.”
So, with that being said, I want to know what you think. Here’s what I think.
IF (and notice that’s a big IF) Paula made that joke about the wedding idea in any era, then or now, it’s not funny. It’s stupid. If Paula responded with the n-word after a man held a gun to her head as she stated, while not still acceptable, it’s more likely a case of forgiveness given the circumstances.
I grew up in the 1960s and 1970s South and that awful word was a commonly used word. Sadly, my late father, was one the most racist, homophobic, sexist, and the list goes on, man I think I’ve ever met. And, even my late grandmother, who was one of the sweetest people I’ve ever met, uttered that word in my childhood, but she wasn’t using it to be ugly. As I grew from a child to a teenager, I educated her that although people use that word, it’s not right.
And, as Paula stated in the interview with Lauer, that word is used too freely in today’s society in movies and music. I agree and that has to stop, too. I don’t care if you are an African-American or you identify as a black man or woman, that word has to stop in all circles. While I’m a gay man, I don’t refer to myself as the derogatory “f-word” and I’d be truly offended if someone else did.
In this country, you’re supposed to be “innocent until proven guilty”. How do we know that Lisa Jackson is telling the truth? I’d really be sadden to know that Paula Deen was not a racist and these allegations ruined her life and career.
My only advice to Paula is stay off television, avoid interviews, and stop posting internet apologies. I know you’re hurt and scared, but the tears and the pleas make you seem too apologetic. As you’ve stated, people who know you know the truth — whatever that truth is.
The bottom line is that if Paula Deen is a racist and she freely used the n-word as Jackson claims, more people would be coming out of the woodwork to make other allegations. They haven’t!
And, I have to say that I commend Paula for the heartfelt and seemingly genuine comments in the interview, “I believe every creature on this Earth … was created equal, no matter who you choose to go to bed at night with [and] no matter what church you go to pray.” And, “There’s a couple of kinds of people that I don’t like that I am prejudiced against, Matt, and that’s thieves and liars.”
Lisa Jackson, if you’re a liar, I hope you get yours.
Re-posted from “Random Friday Thoughts — June 28, 2013