Move Forward & Stop Looking Back

Birthdays are interesting annual events.  Some people count down to the big day and some would rather it pass unnoticed.

As life goes on, the way we celebrate the natal day changes.  As a kid, we’re excited for a cake, a party, and gifts.

That’s me celebrating my first birthday with a cake that ISN’T chocolate! 😦

October 13 1965

In retrospective, I’m grateful I got to celebrate that birthday.  When I arrived six weeks early, in the fall of 1964, I weighed about three pounds and I wasn’t expected to make it.  The survival rate for preemies back then was only 28%!

For many, becoming a teenager is exciting and to others, it’s a terrifying time. Then, there’s 16, 18, and 21.

After that the pressure settles in as 25 nears and you become frantic at 30 feeling as though your youth is gone.  It’s time to evaluate where you’re at in life and where you’re heading.


I survived college, partying, and finding myself in my teens and 20s, starting my career in my 30s, finding love in my 40s, and losing it in my 50s.

There are days of bitterness and anger, but many more are now filled with uncertainty — not only of what lies ahead down this road of life we travel, but mortality!   Dessie-Hollie-Anthony -- Fall 1964

While the average life expectancy in the U.S. is now 78.7 years, my beautiful mother, Dessie, didn’t get anywhere near that.

She died at 47 (in 1990).  My father died three years earlier at 55.


I’m optimistic that I have many years left since I’m physically and mentally healthy.  I just have to work on becoming emotionally and mentally happy!

My next birthday is right around the corner (October 13).

If you send birthday wishes to me via Facebook, I’ll get around to responding to them when I can since I’ll be out of the country!

I’m marking another continent off my travel list!


This will be the fourth continent I’ve visited — following North America, Europe, and Asia!

To help you narrow it down, I don’t think I need to visit Antarctica and going to South America isn’t high on my travel “bucket list”.

Final clues before you see the pictures on Facebook when I have internet:  It’s north of the Equator (never been south of it), 99% Muslim, and it’s ruled by a King.

Birthday Trip 2

And, in August, Madonna spent her 60th birthday there.  I’m sure that her arrangements were on a grander scale! 🙂


P.S. I share my birthday with Sacha Baron Cohen (47), Nancy Kerrigan (49), Fox Mulder (57), and Marie Osmond (59).  Oh, I can’t forget my dear friend, Crystal Craddock-Posey!

With that being said, I want to share some of my favorites birthdays of the past with you.


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For my 50th birthday, I wanted to visit Tel Aviv, Israel.

When booking the trip, the connecting flight was through Paris, so it was decided to spend three nights in Paris and four in Tel Aviv.

For my birthday, I was treated to a Seine River dinner cruise, a view of Paris from atop the Eiffel Tower, and sitting stage side at the historic Moulin Rogue sipping champagne at midnight as I turned 50!

Anthony 50

Days later, in Tel Aviv, I had the best meal ever at Benny The Fisherman, right on the Mediterranean Sea!

Benny The Fisherman


The day started with an incredible brunch at the Stratosphere (back when it was good) in Las Vegas and ended with seeing Madonna and the incredible “MDNA Tour”.


Madonna MDNA


This would be the last one with my best buddy in the world, my beautiful golden retriever, Miss ABBA.  It was a warm fall day in the Quad Cities and we spent it outside playing.



2009 Gifts

As I head into my 55th year and beyond, I’ll live by the words of Kylie Minogue and her life affirming hit “Golden” (which chronicles her turning 50 earlier this year)!

Kylie Golden 1


Kylie Golden 2

My one goal for 2019 — seeing Kylie’s “Golden Tour” here in the U.S.!

Here’s to future!



8 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Janet Robinson on October 9, 2018 at 9:01 am

    That was a great blog but I can feel your pain. I hope it gets better as time goes on. You are a friend and I don’t know you on a personal basis but Through FB I feel the loss in your life and pray that the void will be filled soon. Have a great vacation and Birthday! 🍷🎂❤️


    • Janet,

      Thank you very much for reading, commenting, and for the kind words. I know what you mean by “personal basis”, but through our years of correspondence on FB, I truly consider us friends. Here’s to a happy 2019 for all of us. Take care, my friend.



  2. Posted by Connie Huizenga on October 9, 2018 at 12:06 pm

    Anthony, I always enjoy reading your blogs. Your insights are so well thought out and so thought provoking.

    On to your travels. Where are you going? I think you are headed to Malawi, or at least Africa. I have followed many of your travels and as far as i know you have not been to Africa yet. And, the Madonna reference gave it away for me. No matte where you go, I wish nothing but safe travels with the sun shinning on you.

    For your birthday, I wish you happiness for the day and happiness that grows daily for your next year. You’ve been through the fires of hell and you deserve, and have earned, happiness, peace, and contentment in your life. That is my wish for your birthday this year.

    Love and peace to you Anthony


    • Connie,

      Thank you very much for being my friend and staying in touch after I left the Quad Cities.

      I appreciate the kind words and thank you for taking the time to read my thoughts. 🙂

      Madonna was the big clue. Africa is correct — Morocco. 🙂

      I wish happiness, peace, and contentment for all of us. It takes longer for some.

      I’m so glad that you and Dale have it. 🙂

      Love and peace back at you!



  3. I love all your posts and miss you doing the weather here in the QC. I hope your birthday is wonderful and Alan & I wish you all the best!!!


    • Terry Lee & Alan,

      You’re too kind. I appreciate you keeping up with me after I left. I wish I was still back in the QC, too!

      Thank you for the birthday wishes! 🙂



  4. Posted by Vicky Sondgeroth Bonnell on October 10, 2018 at 9:38 am

    I can’t wait to see all of your wonderful pictures from your upcoming birthday trip. I always live vicariously through your travels. Enjoy your celebration! Happy Birthday!!


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