Posts Tagged ‘David Burtka’

It All Makes Sense Now!

You know I love to share with you and I use my blog and my writing as therapy.

Whether it’s humorous, about the entertainment world, politics, or equality, the topics are usually random.  You never know what I’ll write about next.

I started the blog in January 2012 and, before that, I joined Facebook in the spring of 2009.  It was right after Ray and I started seeing each other.

So, over the past eight years, our lives were played out in the public arena.  It’s given us the chance to meet some of you and to “friend” many others that we never met in person.  However, you’re still a part of our lives and we were a part of yours.

You saw everything from the fun meals and drinks we made, our holiday celebrations, our vacations, and our beautiful wedding reception (six years ago)!

Wedding4

As you know, I moved to Florida in early May and I haven’t been shy about it not being an enjoyable experience.  Part of that is the area, but the larger problem lies with me.

In a couple of blogs this spring (which I’m sharing again below), I said, “I lost faith in myself and in my fellow man and now, it’s up to me to find it again” after the 2016 presidential election.

changes

In another blog, I wrote, “Change is stressful.  Change is exciting.  Change is different. Change is simply change!” and “In life, we go through it many times.  Whether it’s losing loved ones through death, break-ups or divorce, or just by spreading our wings to fly, change proves we’re alive.”

The reasons for the change and the move I expressed in the blogs were honest, but I didn’t share everything.  Some of you sensed there was more to the story and there is.

Curtain Call

In early February, Ray and I decided to go our separate ways after eight years together. We called it “a break”.  But, we knew then that we had drifted apart and the circumstances weren’t going to change.

When I said, Florida “hasn’t been an enjoyable experience”, now you know the real, larger issue.

Moving here was a quick fix solution to our problem, a “band-aid” to cover something that needed more attention, but was neglected.

In retrospective, Florida is/was a mistake.  If I had it to do over again, I probably would have stayed in the Quad Cities, even as we moved forward with our separation and divorce.

R & A

After we started posting pictures of our trip to Scandinavia, we knew it was time to make it public based on comments of how happy we looked and it was good to see us together again.

That trip was already scheduled and paid for long before we made this life-altering decision.  The trip turned out to be our “swan song”!

Ray is moving on with his life and is experiencing things he was missing out on in the last years of our relationship.  Now, it’s up to me to do the same.

I wish him the very best in life and I hope he finds what we had for much of our time together and lost toward the end.

On Kygo’s 2016 CD, “Cloud Nine”, there’s a song, “Stole the Show” that sadly and perfectly sums things up.  Our relationship was on display thanks to social media and we didn’t mind.  But, now that the outcome is what it is, things playing out publicly is different.

If and when another relationship comes our way, we both might be more reserved to make it public and I hope, my friends, that you don’t take that the wrong way.

The End

Here are those blogs I referenced above:

“It All Starts With Me”

https://anthonypeoples.wordpress.com/2017/04/07/it-all-starts-with-me/

“Change”

https://anthonypeoples.wordpress.com/2017/04/15/change/

All of this has me thinking of the most charming public couple, Neil Patrick Harris and his husband, David Burtka.

In a 2014 “Rolling Stone” feature on Harris, Burtka said, “There is a lot of ‘Oh, you guys are role models’, I’m superhappy that people look to us.  If anything happened, God forbid, I wouldn’t want to let anyone down.  But nothing will!  After you get to, like, seven, eight years, it’s like, ‘No one’s going anywhere’.”

For Harris, Burtka, and their twins, I’m happy that it’s true for them!

Anthony

 

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