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Thank You “The Advocate” For My Advocacy

Every week, I share my “Random Friday Thoughts”.  I’m always thinking about something and writing gives me an avenue to express myself.  It’s rewarding when those thoughts prompt others to think about topics they normally wouldn’t consider and a dialogue is started.

I love to be provoked to think, too.  We should all be challenged to pontificate about life and what we can do to make ours better and the lives better for those around us.  Today, my thoughts focus on a special milestone.

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The largest and oldest LGBT magazine in the United States, “The Advocate”, is celebrating its 50th anniversary this year.

Happy Birthday and thank you for leading the fight!

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We’ve made so many advancements in the past five decades, but our work is just beginning.

I want to thank “The Advocate” for pushing two key phrases now as we navigate through the next 1,295 days (Inauguration Day 2021):  “Stay Woke” and “Resistance”!

We need this encouragement now more than ever.

“The Advocate” started as a local Los Angeles newsletter in 1967 and while many LGBT magazines copied its model, most have come and gone.

My first recollection of “The Advocate” was in the early-1990s when I was living in small town Kentucky reading about the anti-gay and racist business practices of the Cracker Barrel restaurant chain. While still a southern staple, it’s expanded across the country, but I’ve never eaten at one and I never will.

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“The Advocate” has covered all of the issues we’ve face in the LGBT community starting with police harassment at the Black Cat Tavern in Los Angeles and the Stonewall Inn riots in New York City in the 1960s.

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That harassment was a tipping point.  We’d had enough and it was time to fight back.  That fight was the catalyst for the modern gay rights movement and the Gay Pride parades that started in 1970.

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“The Advocate” was there for out politicians like Harvey Milk in the late-1970s and to out anti-gay politicians.

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Just as we were beginning to gain national exposure and make progress in showing the country and the world that we were someone’s brother, sister, son, daughter, neighbor, and friend, “The Advocate” was there to inform us in the summer of 1981 when “gay cancer” began killing off our friends in the community.

That cancer became GRID and then AIDS in the 1980s.

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“The Advocate” was there to hold President Ronald Reagan responsible for not saying AIDS publicly until 1987 after more than 16,000 people had already died.

And, “The Advocate” was there as we fought for our rights and for equality — marriage equality, transgender equality, and women’s rights.

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“The Advocate” was there through it all and its insight prompted me to move to Chicago in 1994 and become the person I am today.

A person that’s proud to be an out gay man that’ll continue to work to educate people about acceptance and equality.

I wish the new editorial director, Diane Anderson-Minshal, the very best as she takes the magazine forward in the fight for the next 50 years.  (Also, a thank you to the former editorial director, Matthew Breen, who now works in the same capacity at LogoTV.)

SEXUAL RACISM

I mentioned that I like to be pushed to think, too.

Sexual racism is a term that’s gaining traction across the country, but many people are not familiar with it.

It’s basically when a person of one race idolizes or fantasizes about a person of another race to the point of objectification.  It’s seen as power — one race being superior to another.  The article that got me to thinking more about it was from a black writer exposing the obsession he saw toward his community by white men.

I’ve never been in a situation where a person of color pursued me for a relationship, but I’d be open to it.

It’s like the line in “Hidden Figures” when Janelle Monae’s Mary Jackson says, “It’s equal rights.  I have the right to see fine in every color”.  That’s how I feel.

When I see attractive people of color, I take notice.  But, I don’t set out to look for this or that.  I’m not ordering from a takeout menu and this particular flavor sounds especially good today.  I see people as people.

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Bill T. Jones is a man that I truly admire for all that he’s done for the gay community over his long life.  And, from what I’ve read, it doesn’t appear that he has a hang up with “sexual racism”.

Jones, who’s black and who modeled naked for the late renowned (white) artist, Keith Haring, in the early-1980s, doesn’t mince words about how he feels.

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Jones told “The Advocate” about his former lover and partner Arnie Zane (the couple were together for almost twenty years until Zane died in Jones’ arms in 1988),  “I wanted to find, and I did find, a person like Arnie Zane — Jewish, aesthetic, neurotic, poetic, and fierce — and already dealing with being an androgynous man who was a white man who would be public about actually loving a black man, and it wasn’t some sort of a kink.  He was able to love me.” 

Jones went on to say about the 1970s gay clubs days, “… we can see race is very much with us.  Race has not left.”  And, he adds, “So the gay identity was white, middle class.  God knows, I love them  – or I loved – those white boys.

So, with that, I’m still learning from “The Advocate” and like President Barack Obama evolved with his views on marriage equality, I’m still evolving, too.

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Bisexuality comes to mind when I think of myself evolving.

With the acronym LGBT, I never bought into the “B” for bisexual.  I always thought bisexuals were gay people afraid to admit it because of family, religion, or the fear of homophobia.

You often hear certain celebrities come out as “bisexual”, but I’ve never had a friend tell me they’re “bi”.

However, looking back to my early years in the gay community, I recall a friend that was lesbian that went on to marry a man and have children and another woman that was married to a man, but also took on a lesbian lover with her husband’s knowledge.

So, I’ve evolved to believe that there are true “bisexuals”.

I’m looking forward to learning more from “The Advocate” as the LGBT community advances proudly through the next 50 years.

Again, congratulations and happy anniversary to “The Advocate”.

Anthony

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Finding “Young Love” A World Away From Iowa

If you’re an actor or a singer, Los Angeles and New York City are worlds away from Iowa and Illinois.  It’s true that you can be discovered anywhere, but it’s also true that once you bite the bullet and move to the big city and start hitting the streets and playing clubs that your chances of “making it big” increase.

For Eli Lieb, he’s working hard to make those dreams come true — first in New York City and now in Los Angeles.

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While he’s very busy prepping his new album and his new song and video, “Young Love”, Eli and I corresponded late last week for this blog.

Lieb grew up in southeastern Iowa about two hours from the Quad Cities.  He moved to New York City when he was 20-years-old and stayed there for more than a decade playing his music, recording his self-titled and self-produced debut album, and taking advantage of social media and the internet to get his music out there.

Eli tells me, “Being in control over who I am and what I do has been such a blessing. I’m always open to everything and anything but so far it has been very rewarding to be able to create all that I have created totally on my own.”

On his YouTube page, Eli has an extensive collection of songs featuring his versions of hits by one of his influences, Robyn, along with Rihanna, Pink, Justin Timberlake, Adele, Maroon 5,  Lana Del Ray, Britney Spears, and Lady Gaga.

While he was putting the finishing touches on his new song and video, “Young Love”, America started hearing about Steve Grand, a Chicago singer, who released a video featuring a one-sided same-sex affair — a gay man crushing on his straight or curious friend.  While no country station is brave enough to add that song, “All-American Boy”, Eli says that the internet opens up a whole new avenue for musicians, especially gay singers and artists.

“Social networking is definitely a huge help. Times they are a-changing, and people want that change. I am so happy that Steve released a fearless video as well – there seriously must be something in the air for us to both release videos like this within a week of each other, and I love that! All I want is for people to live their lives without fear and for this world to be as unified and peaceful as possible.”

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Since debuting late last week, “Young Love” has already been viewed on YouTube more than 200,000 times!

Eli says, “I’m so excited about ‘Young Love’. It completely represents where I am as a songwriter right now and it’s definitely a sign of what’s to come from me . And I couldn’t be more thrilled with how the video came out. I really just wanted to capture the feeling of being newly in love and just living life in that happy elated state.”

In the “Young Love” video, Eli’s love interest is played by Aaron Milo, who is originally from Rockford, Illinois.

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Aaron starred in the gay comedies, “Eating Out 4:  Drama Camp” (2011) and “Eating Out 5:  The Open Weekend” (2012) as Benji, the new “straight” boy.  If you haven’t seen the movies, they are hilarious.

Eli and Aaron not only share Eli’s first screen kiss, but by being friends, they have more in common!  Eli adds, “Working with Aaron was really great. He’s a good friend of mine, so it was really fun to bring him into the video. We had a blast running around for 2 days having fun and filming. The whole cast was amazing and we all totally bonded over this experience. And as Aaron was already friend of mine, so we have definitely discussed Britney together 🙂 ”

And, while this is about the ultra-talented Eli, I have to share this fun and sexy video that Aaron made with his “Eating Out” co-star Daniel Skelton.  Britney fans rejoice!

With his new album on the way and “Young Love” gaining traction, you’ll definitely be hearing much more about Eli Lieb.  And, no matter how popular he gets, I know that Eli will never forget his Iowa roots.

Eli says, “Well, since I grew up in Iowa and still spend a good amount of time there, I’m totally bias. I can just say it’s one of my favorite places on earth. The people are so kind and accepting and it really is a wonderfully beautiful place to be.”

You can learn much more about Eli on his website, http://elilieb.com/

Anthony